in high school or university, you would have no qualms about getting to know new friends? Everyone is a student, most don’t have dark secrets or shady ulterior motives.

After graduation, your sample size exponentially increases to the point that you cannot determine who is good and who is bad. This person might be good, but how can you trust a stranger? How long can you talk, to the point that you trust them enough to stop talking, and start acting and making decisions about them? How long does it take to be comfortable around them?

I’m so torn. One minute I think he is a possbility but the next I find the whole idea repulsive.